Let me start off by saying that I am starting this blog not as a means to exploit neither Chris Brown nor Rihanna. They are merely an example, a jumping off point if you will, to start a discussion on abuse and relationships...
That being said, I'm sure many of us were disturbed when we saw these pictures of Rihanna's battered and bruised face. I know I couldn't believe that cute little Chris Brown was the alleged attacker. They seemed so happy in the media - at awards shows and in magazines. It made me start to wonder how many other women out there were suffering at the hands of a boyfriend or husband and were keeping silent about it. After all, this was a beautiful, talented, poised and prosperous young woman allowing herself to be disrespected...and the reports say repeatedly. I was dumbfounded! It also conjured up memories of Halle Berry, one of the most recognizable and stunning women in the world, talking to the media about how she had been beaten by past boyfriends. She now supports a foundation to prevent abuse, by the way.
If women like these, who have several options layed out before them and the means to live independently, struggle with leaving their abusers - then how does the average woman who is being physically or mentally abused fare? Imagine being dependent on an abusive spouse or someone you are living with to pay your bills and help care for your children...could you walk away? It's easier said than done.
What was also disturbing to me was some of the comments coming from young women after the Rihanna case came out in the press. Young girls were actually calling in to the radio stations defending Chris Brown's alleged actions, saying things like "He's so fine, he could beat me anytime!" What is this world coming to when a woman thinks it's okay for a man to put his hands on a female?
It's flabbergasting! Are we devaluing ourselves so much now that we put up with anything as long as a man looks good, sleeps with us and provides financial assistance? This can't be! We have to teach our young women and instill in our grown women that we are worth much more.
Please chime in and tell me what you think about all this...
Thanks and look forward to chatting with you! :-)
Same old story over and over again,. Year after year, decade after decade. We need males, females, gays, young, and old school, Christian, Muslim, Scientologist, Atheist, Black, White, Hispanic, all cultures to stand up, anyone that has a woman in their life that they love. 'If you don't stand for Something, you'll fall for anything! Our women take it because they know that in reality, the world quietly condones it. What kind of man are you, if you don't beat your woman when she confronts you about your philandering?! What if this was your sister, mother, aunt, or in some cases Grandmother? It's time we STAND for Women's Rights to Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness. Enough is Enough is Enough! This has gone on long enough! Good women and especially the MEN, need to fight Hollywood back! They perpetrate this and laugh all the way to the bank. This sold more air time than the most unspeakable crimes committed at the same time.It is time to turn the tables. Speak up brave ones, especially those of us in the entertainment industry. Are you quietly enabling?
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ReplyDeleteThis is very well said. Our young women must quit disrespecting themselves by constantly shaking their booty, showing off their bodies as wonton meat. And our young men must began respecting them as if they were their own mothers. They must reclaim their heritage as men, protectors of their seed and their women. Beating of women is unacceptable. Calling our women Bitches is unacceptable. Our men not taking care of their children is unacceptable. Your seed, how you cultivate it is the only thing of value that represents you after you leave this world. Thinking that Gangsterism is “cool” or “manly” is unacceptable. Calling each other Niger is unacceptable, and as long as we as community stand by and let Hollywood, the music industry or anyone else including ourselves help perpetuate this mockery, we deserve what we get. If we don't stand up and speak up, we will have to live with the consequences. As far as the Chris Brown, he was wrong. No matter what, a man should not put his hands on a woman. If an argument gets to that point of violence, a man should walk away and come back after he has cooled off. And "Black Woman" do not try to block his way or pull him back when he is attempting to get away from the argument. Do not hit him, or get up in his face, tempting him to strike you. Enough said, E to the K
The plague of domestic violence has affected so many woman and children from generation to generation across the nation and the world. There are so many women that have been subjected to physical abuse for years and have not spoken out. I've been working on a stage play for over three years title "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH". It deals with domestic violence. I'm taking this play across the nation so that many woman, men and children can see how abuse affects families and close friends. I want to make this story more effective so that it would have a stronger impact on those that are dealing with physical abuse. Women and children have lost their lives at the hands of their attacker. It’s time for this to stop. Some women that’s been in abusive relationship for years ended up committing suicide or attempting suicide to escape the violence against them. Also, the statics shows that 75% of women have lost their lives at the hands of their abuser when they try to separate. Only 25% actually escape. I have a video clip depicting the story of abusive relationships. Revisions are being made to the story to make it more effective. You can view a clip of the original story at http://www.leadinglightproductions.com./news.php Let’s all help support this cause. It can never be enough information and support to stop domestic violence. Please help support this cause. God bless you.
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